SOMEBODY’S SON SERVED ME BREAKFAST

Hello,

I hope you’re having a splendid February so far. First, let me apologize to you for my absence on Valentine’s Day. I guess you can say that I was very busy. I got served a big tray of breakfast filled with all the variety; a big, rich tray of breakfast a 5-paragraph long break-up message. Yes, best believe it, I GOT SERVED!

While everyone was out enjoying the 14th of February with their loved ones, going to their favorite restaurants and going on romantic boat cruises, I was alone in my house because somebody’s son had decided that his mission in this life was to break my heart and he chose no other time to do it but the very day meant for lovers to celebrate themselves. It’s been over a week since then and I have finally started recovering. I have come to terms with the fact that this life na ‘turn by turn’ and everyone will have a taste of everything, especially heartbreak.  Afterall, breakfast na national cake, e go reach everybody.

While it may not be the same kind of heart-break, things happen to us in life that destabilize us or shake us to our core, it may be the loss of a friend or loved one, the loss of material possessions, or even in some cases, the loss of a profitable business relationship.  You meet a prospect today and things are going well, they are talking to you about their hopes, their preferred investments, their choice of design for their home and so on. You even spend time with their nuclear and extended family members, taking them on inspections every time. They ask you for advice because they trust you to look out for them. Then the next thing you know, they simply do not pick up your calls anymore and you get to find out that they have moved on to someone else. Sometimes, you don’t even find out anything. You just realize what has happened, you have been GHOSTED!  Chai! The pain!

In a previous letter, we talked about being able to bounce back from bad situations. Hard as it may seem, this is one of such situations we must try to recover from. It’s easier said than done but maybe following these steps can help us move on faster from a heartbreak no matter what form it comes in.

1. Accept the failure of the relationship: What’s done is done, you have to step living in the past and start living in the future.

2. Evaluate your behaviour in relationships: Oftentimes, we like to think we are blameless when things fall apart but we can be wrong about this. We may have failed to communicate effectively or failed to act proactively when we were expected to thereby leaving cracks in the wall. It’s often good to own up to our mistakes and find ways to avoid repeating them in the future. Learn to analyze your mind, habits and actions.

3. Get back into the game: Don’t waste time brooding over something you cannot change, focus on adopting a new mindset and trying new things.

4. Prepare for the next heartbreak because it will come: Life swings back and forth like a pendulum and you always have to be prepared to take a hit. In all, be optimistic and always remember that on this journey “Elemi lo ma last”.

See you next time.

Your friend

Miss Grey